Thursday, April 20, 2006
Personal Determination
I have trouble with my elder daughter now. As she became adolescent, she started hating me. I browsed through homepages and found that many fathers are disliked by their daughters, too. One of the reasons is that they are insensitive to their daughters’ feelings. In short, we have to change ourselves from a natural father to a man of better personality. I guess I should be more interested in literature and philosophy rather than worldly profits, sexual things, and so on. (Even though I always have paid attention to humanistic ideas, I should do so more intensely and use this personal crisis as a chance to refine my own self.) Fathers, if you want to have a better relationship with your daughters, you should make efforts to be respected, too.
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I'm sure that you'd better not worry about your daughter's feeling too much. Because 'love' and 'hate' act in close association. So I think ‘Indifference’ is a problem. If your daughter hates you, please don’t worry, she will be there and she wants more conversation with you.
From EFL teachers’ seminar I’ve learned that a teacher and students must take and share the responsibility of the class. It is not necessarily true that the teacher is always to be respected and a role model.
I found the article in Honolulu Advertiser (on Aug. 20).
http://the.honoluluadvertiser.com/article/2006/Aug/20/il/FP608200318.html
Priest should be respected all the time, but he/she is a human.
Anyway, Good Luck for your family, Bobby.
Shunichi
Thanks for your advice, Shunichi. I guess I will take it easy.
Every time my daughter behaved like an enemy against me (she irritatingly talked to me for the past few years), my heart ached. I saw the Tales from Earthsea(Gedo Senki) with my family at my local theater last weekend. I realized that young people embrace fear inside of them. I have forgotten the fact that they are vulnerable. My daughter was looking for an answer and wanted to ask questions, but she couldn't. (I guess fear causes fear to ask guestions.)I couldn't see what was in the heart of my daughter. It felt like the darkness in her heart was too deep. But now I feel I can see the light. I can't describe it well, but it's the light that softens both her heart and mine. It's going to be a long way before she realizes the full responsibility of adulthood. I am going to be patient, I mean, I will take it easy.
Bobby
Maybe you couldn't find the article on the website.
this is the exact address.
http://the.honoluluadvertiser.com/article/2006/Aug/20/il/FP608200318.html
this article is about "Burnout".
Shunichi
Sorry,again, Bobby.
this blog template or format cuts the address in the middle because of its length.
please make these two lines into one.
http://the.honoluluadvertiser.com/article/2006/Aug/20
/il/FP608200318.html
Or you can go to
http://the.honoluluadvertiser.com/article/2006/Aug/20
and then, click the article called
"Burnout a reality for many in clergy"
Of course, you can go to the website of Honolulu Advertiser and then search out the article on news browser.
Shunichi
Thanks, Shunichi. After I read the article, I felt relieved.
Bobby
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